The Dissatisfied Wives

Women often complain about their husband being like this and like that; yet at night time they always end up sleeping with their husband on the same bed that was their haven during the first few months of their marriage. So what is it that women are talking about?

8 out of ten wives I interviewed have these things to say about their husband:

Ara

She thinks that her husband is not good in everything he does including the most intimate part of their marriage. Her husband has no permanent job. He is not the macho type either but what drove Ara to choose her husband despite her being an intelligent woman? Ara who was a very pretty woman in her younger days had her share of countless proposals from good looking men with good jobs but did not accept any of them. Ara didn’t have any relationship with the opposite sex except for one which she didn’t take seriously. With only one boy friend which did not last long, Ara didn’t really experience how it was like to be in loved and cared by a man.

Her job as a private midwife locked her world from the outside world and she soon forgot about getting involved with the opposite sex. She often said that she didn’t want to marry. When she was 36, she met her husband whom she thought was the perfect man for her to have a child. He was kind and nice after all and he loved children which Ara considered good enough qualities of a man to marry. Although Ara did not fall in love with him at first sight, Ara said she liked his being a gentleman and caring.

After only a few months they got married and she bore two children. It was only when Ara had her second child when she realized that the marriage was a mistake. Financially, her husband isn’t a good provider and he wasn’t good either in bed. Ara’s only consolation was her husband’s expertise in cooking and doing house hold chores, so their marriage for 17 years lasted because Ara wanted her children to have a father to cook for them and do the household chores while she goes to work.

Rose

Rose thinks her husband is good in bed but complains that her husband is perhaps one of the laziest men on earth. Rose says that she easily melts in her husband’s embrace. He is an expert lover that keeps their relationship burning but other than that, she abhors the time when they sit down and talk about important things. Rose says that her husband thinks only of himself and the food he is going to eat without thinking where to get money to buy the good stuffs that he loves.

Rose is the provider, the decision maker, the breadwinner, the parent to her kids and everything. Her only consolation is that at least her husband makes her complete as a woman in bed.

Mila

Mila complains that her husband hits her black and blue because of jealousy but he is a good provider to his family. They have a big house complete with all the good stuffs that she loves. Their two kids go to an exclusive school and she drives her own car. She says that she is happy with her present situation although when her husband hits her; she feels like leaving him. She cannot do it because she has no job and her kids need their father.

Trishna

Trishna thinks her husband is a brute who wants only her body in bed but cares nothing but himself. She often cries because her husband is treating her like just another woman. She goes to work in a reputable company while he stays at home to take care of the kids. When she goes home, everything is ready including their dinner but when her cell phone rings and she has to answer it, he flares up and an endless quarrel would ensue. Her only consolation is her husband’s being an at home father to take care of their kids while she goes to work.

Kyla

Kyla met her husband when they were only both sixteen. They were too young but they got married because according to Kyla, they were head over heels in love with each other. After she gave birth to their third child, he started treating her like a servant. She was only twenty that time. Things went worse when she stopped working to take care of the kids. He often went home drank. Kyla says she suspected another woman and she was right. Her only consolation was that her husband is a good provider for them. She has no plans of leaving her husband.

Lonie

Lonie says her husband could make her forget all her worries in their private moments but complains that he cannot provide for them. Her husband is a mama’s boy who depends on his parents for a living. He does not work; he does nothing to become a responsible father because according to him his parents are there to provide for them. Lonie says her husband is a disgusting man who thinks he is a baby when he is already 40.

Cathy

Cathy says her husband makes her feel like strangling him because he loves wine, gambling and women. Combine all these three and it means hell according to Cathy but she cannot leave him because her husband is rich and he provides everything for them. They have four kids who are going to exclusive schools and the fine lifestyle that she loves is preventing her from leaving home.

Lisa

Lisa smiled wanly when I asked her about her husband. She says, in bed he is great, in physical looks he could compare to a matinee idol but in financial matters, he is so poor that he couldn’t even buy his own shoes. Lisa has been the bread winner for her family while her husband stays at home and rears the kids but when Lisa goes home she still does the cooking because her husband does not know how to cook.

The 8 women are content that they have a husband with them at home so they have no plans of junking them and moving to another place because according to them they have a home with their husband.

And these are the two satisfied wives. Let’s see what they have to say about their husband.

Maricon

Maricon says that she is living like a queen with her husband because he has all the plus points that she could give to a man. Her husband has money. He is a good provider. He makes her forget everything in bed. He is good looking and most of all; he is the ideal father for her two kids. Maricon is very happy that she was blessed with a very pleasant and a happy family.

According to her, things work if the wife and husband cooperate and communicate. When a minute problem ensues, it has to be taken cared ASAP so that it will not turn into a fire that will burn down a relationship.

Jennifer

Jennifer is not pretty but her husband is so handsome that she will kill to have him. And so she had him right at the roof of her house. She is the provider and the caring wife who makes sure everything is taken cared.

Jennifer says that her husband maybe sometimes difficult to deal with but she knows how to handle him easily. Her husband respects her being the provider and they easily come up to a compromise when things go wrong.

Jennifer’s advice to wives is to take care of their men just like they take care of their wardrobe and make-up. According to her, men are sometimes like little children who need much attention so if the woman does not know how to take care of them they seek their needs elsewhere.

Every woman has her own reason for being the wife she is so there is no need to judge them. What each woman need is a piece of sound advice but not a lecture on how they should do things.